We live in an interconnected world of relationships. Sometimes we help others..sometimes we need help from allies.Seeking help is an art. You need to closely understand the person whose help you seek. Never be trapped in your own wants & desires that you mix-up his needs with yours. If your need to seek help from him is not delicately couched in your magnified appeal to his self-interest that shows how alliance with you can help him, you will not be able to evoke his enthusiastic interest. If you remind him of your past assistance & good deeds,he will ignore you. Best way to win is by letting people realise that their self-interest is best served by promoting you.