First, Be Calm within
Unless you are calm within, you cannot see your own true image. If you are boiling within with unanswered questions or frothing with anger over some answers you got the crucial questions you raised, forget the external environment, you won't be able to understand your own self within. First, you must therefore learn to calm your self. Remember, boiling water has no reflections. You will only be able to feel the heat but you will not be able to see true reflections of the real situation you are coping with . Cool the boil first and you will understand when you see the reflection thereafter.