I must be having a group of positive friends. I sent the enclosed doodle* situation to 50 randomly selected friends on W'App. "If God forbid you found yourself in this situation, would you consider yourself - unlucky or lucky ?" Only 40 responded. 2 played around electing both options. So effectively 38. Considering they were friends, I had expected atleast 45. But that I presume is the nature of responses to most surveys. I will tell you the results a bit later. Let me before that explain the concept of 'Cognitive Framing'. Put into the same situation, each one of us chooses to notice a few things, avoid noticing a few things and prefer to thus explain the larger incident to ourselves. The way each one has scripted this Cognitive frame for us, influences the way we decide, the way we make choices & the way we pick up from options available. Cognitive Framing has nothing to do with actual data. It is just unconscious beliefs that you nurture for the script that prompts you from within. Actual data may tell at times, a totally different story. Consciously keep telling yourself each time ... you are lucky. Believe in it and see your luck actually changing. Try it 26 said they were lucky. Could have been worst they believed. 12 said unlucky. Why me ??? Reminds me of that classic Arthur Ashe quote (the youngest and the first black American to win the Wimbeldon and 3 Grand Slams titles). He suffered from AIDS due to an unfortunate blood transfusion in a cardiac operation and died. Upon being asked when alive - if he ever asked God 'why him so young for this ailment?', he said No. I never asked him why me when I was holding the cup as a Champion. I can't ask him why me, now. That is Cognitive Framing.
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