We build relationships without deeper assessment of the real character or traits of the people we deal with. We live to thus often repent.
People wear masks. If we discern the real person by assessing their character only on the basis of their fancy dresses and cosmetically baked faces or the pretentious courtesies they express, we are but bound to go wrong.
It is necessary to wait, observe and discern the character of the real person and his motives beneath the baked mask before you build deep relationships.
Gibran culls out this sentiment so well...'Faces'.
"I have seen faces with a thousand countenance, and a face that was but a single countenance as if held in a mould. I have seen a face whose sheen I could look through to the ugliness beneath, and a face whose sheen I had to lift to see how beautiful it was.
I have seen an old face much lined with nothing, and a smooth face in which all things were graven.
I know faces, because I look through the fabric my own eye weaves, and behold the reality beneath."